I don't need pity, killing my self esteem, or people trying to lock me in verbal combat and hurt and burn me. I will tell them, "Since I have so much conflict with you we shouldn't be friends anymore." They make me feel bad in order that they might feel good. I will dismiss any shoulds or commands and accusations and scolding as just the same unaccepable sadism. I will not allow anyone to make me cry or get angry or put the fear on me anymore.