What is it that makes people blame and accuse and all that nasty stuff. I am not into that game and even have a hard time accepting this kinda crap when people start dishing it out. Like it doesn't hurt to speak what is really happening in you. Or anytime for that matter. Speaking what is in you, the closest to the core. Why not be real. How can we love if we are being fake even if that fakeness has dignity. Lowering your dignity is really different than losing self respect. I believe people would find a lot more respect from others if they were strait forward even when the person was a bit awkward, at least the person is not paralyzed by fear and distrust.