A great mystery is solved..

How childhood can effect adulthood is sometimes bazaar.

Humanity is less complex than all the experts would fill books about.

Basically there are normal social contracts and unspoken rules and some people do it without to some degree, or a lot.

The branch is in philosophy known as ethics:  Really is a greater psychological maze.  It is true in how we internalize ethics is how we become part of the social world around us.

This stupidity in defining identity is really the wrong way to go.  More later when my thoughts go through some hours or days on this.